Relieving the image of anger

For those of you that no me and how I work, you will be aware of my firm belief in the “whole-body”/somatic learning experience.
This week the topic of anger has come up quite a lot. Now I cannot admit to being an anger specialist, but I have found the journey of helping to connect people with their experience of anger a very profound one.
I should start with a little home-truth; I know anger. And some will vouch for that for sure. I remember in my 20’s my house-mate telling me that I had the worst temper of anyone that he had ever encountered. I still fear asking an honest question of my family.
Anyway, over the last few years of meditation practice I have found my anger – or should I say I have found out where it lives. And I have found the journey that it travels within me.
I have become aware of the physical rising of the anger emotion within – and I have found that I can turn and face it, acknowledge it and dissipate it. Or at least 8 or 9 times out of 10 – LOL!
This week it has been the anger of others.
Visualization in a meditative state can help us recreate the physicality of their anger. And then most importantly we can pause and we can turn to face it.
Not only can we face it but we can explore it. And this is where the fun starts.
So, tell me, what does your anger look like?
Perhaps it looks like fire.
And ok, if it looks like fire, what would happen if we gently started to pour water on it.
In the chair before me a body becomes less taught, the outlines soften. Perhaps even a smile creeps along their lips. Before me there is change. And when they return there is the relief of release. A stretch. A yawn.
And suddenly a new coping mechanism is born.
In moving people away from their minds, we can shift their focus away from the stimulus. In shifting the over-bearing thoughts, or the physical stress or tightness of their reaction, to a picture we shift consciousness. We can morph the picture to happier things, or we can “treat” the image with an appropriate counter measure, e.g. pouring water onto the fire.
Lastly, it becomes easier to share a healing emotion – offering kindness or compassion Not fighting it or suppressing, but connecting with the humanity that we might show a sick loved one or an injured pet.
Inviting the individual to find their emotion, and then bring it to life though their own intuitive visual creates an emotional separation – we can become the observer of them, not the prisoner.
Painting that picture of our anger, paints a landscape within which we can escape its constraints, an environment where we can let it free; a place where it can do no harm.
What pictures would your body show you if you looked within?